Dating man older

12-Dec-2019 01:48

Dear Christine, I started dating a man and we have an amazing connection. I had NEVER considered or imagined I would be drawn to someone so much older. Do I turn away what seems to be my perfect match because of the age gap?

We have endless and effortless conversations about the myriad interests we share, he's hilarious (and he thinks I am too), we share the same values in life, I feel like I can be 100% myself with him. Let me be clear, I'm not drawn to him because he "fathers me." I have a great, solid relationship with my dad and have no issues there.

I always seem to date guys between 10 to 20 years older than me, and from my relationships comes some of the best memories and experiences.

I still get the common response from my friends: “He's too old for you! ” I've also had a few people in my life suggest that I do it because I am a “gold digger.”So, the broad answer is this: To clarify, I'm not dating older men because I am a “gold digger.” It's more important for me to pull my own weight and be financially stable.

These men tend to be way more well-established and courteous, they’re chivalrous and you’ll never hear the words, “let’s hang out” ever again.

If I follow what feels right, am I setting myself up for future failure? Usually, we don't question the things we know in our gut to in our best interests.

You are concerned that a 15 year age difference may be a "terrible idea" or "setting yourself up for future failure." Are these irrational concerns, or is this your intuition trying to out-talk your infatuation?

If you’re convinced that a supremely hot sugar baby will make a devoted wife, please take note of these warnings for young women who like to date old.

That sounds dramatic; don’t forget how it actually looks…

These men tend to be way more well-established and courteous, they’re chivalrous and you’ll never hear the words, “let’s hang out” ever again.

If I follow what feels right, am I setting myself up for future failure? Usually, we don't question the things we know in our gut to in our best interests.

You are concerned that a 15 year age difference may be a "terrible idea" or "setting yourself up for future failure." Are these irrational concerns, or is this your intuition trying to out-talk your infatuation?

If you’re convinced that a supremely hot sugar baby will make a devoted wife, please take note of these warnings for young women who like to date old.

That sounds dramatic; don’t forget how it actually looks…

Though this list may sound like it’s targeted toward young ladies seriously contemplating shacking up with a significantly older man (because it partially is), it’s also for those men who believe proposing to someone in her 20s as they approach 50 is a grand idea.